Anger : Spiritual Awakening | Meaning & How to control it Spiritually? | Poison to your Mind, Body and Soul
Anger is not the most comfortable emotion but we all have felt it at times. And when it gets out of control
and turns destructive, it can lead to problems—problems at work, in your
personal relationships, and in the overall quality of your life.
It also may be the most destructive emotional state in spiritual
We often get a message that anger is what our practices
should be able to get rid of, that we should try to transform it into pure
What if we
considered anger from another point of view: not as an enemy, but as a dear
friend which could be understood?
“You will not be punished for your anger. You will be punished by your
This quote is
attributed to the Buddha usually, although in fact it is an actual false
This quote was
first found in 1996’s “Treasury Of Spiritual Wisdom” by Andy Zubko’s, in which
he lists the following quote written by Buddha:
“You will not be
punished for your anger, you will be punished by anger. Let a man overcome
anger by love.”Although this
quote is not actually from Buddha, but it does contain a lot of truth: The idea
that we will not be punished for being angry, but rather punished by anger, the
feeling, itself. It speaks to mindfulness, karma, and the Buddhist idea of
So, what does it
actually mean?Usually in the
society of 21st Century, we are used to the idea of anger that it is punished
by an external source.
If you are angry
because of school, you might be punished by the professor.
If you are angry
at work, you might be punished by your boss.
And if you are
angry with your spouse, you might be punished by him/her.
you are being punished by those people for acting in angry ways, you will
first be punished by yourself.
The idea is
that, Anger itself is an actual form of self-punishment. And this is
absolutely true.Feeling anger is
its a kind of penalty to self.
After all, who
wants to feel angry? We’d all much rather feel happy, right?You can be
punished by any painful emotion, mostly negative emotions like sadness, jealousy,
guilt, shame…they are all their own penalty and they are all painful emotions.But, if anger is a kind of
self-punishment then, what are we
exactly being punished for?
Because if we
haven’t done anything bad, what have we even done wrong? Why should anger be a
punishment? For what reasons?
According to Buddhism, Anger is one of the
three poisons, along with greed and ignorance.
Buddha’s another famous quote, “Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal
with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets
Buddhism states that, the harm we do to others will eventually cause
harm to ourselves.
essentially the idea of the good and the bad karmas.
Also a saying,
what goes around, comes around.We also know
where science too believes that acting in anger or in other negative emotions
will cause us harm eventually no matter what.
If you act
angrily towards other people, they will probably respond likewise, so that our
anger ends up being reflected on to ourselves.We also know that
anger directly affects our mental and physical health, causing problems
like depression, anxiety, and blood pressure and much more.
And so it is
literally true that we are anyways being punished by our anger, because our
anger affects our happiness and our physical health too.If we get angry,
it is exactly the direct result of ignorance.
Let’s say, that
we are angry because we made plans to meet someone and they’ve let us
Sure, we have the right to be angry,
because they’ve inconvenienced us. But the real cause of our anger is lack of
We are not
considering that perhaps they’ve had a hard day, or something’s just came up,
or perhaps they have fallen sick or maybe cold feet (for instance, if they’re
nervous turning up for a date).We ignore
thinking in the terms of their way, seeing the only fact that they have
inconvenienced us (not being compassionate), and so we end up feeling
And so, if we see
the full picture from the third person perspective we would consider their
feelings and their circumstances, we would be far less inclined to even feel
anger.If you take a
level of compassionate and enlightened perspective on things, you will not feel
angry and won’t be punished by your own negative emotions.Anger:
Perspective of seeing it as a selfish emotion and a karmic energy.Usually we feel
angry because usually it’s just about us.
Sometimes, it can
be really unfair to you that caused anger… Agreed!
But for a moment, do take a mental time-out… practice breathing, think
and rewind your life tape for a minute and think the reason that caused you
You will find
that you have done the exact thing in your past which led you to be angry right
now at this moment especially when someone else did.
Also maybe you are still doing it presently but we so blind-fold our own
mistakes, that we can easily blame someone for doing the same thing. Isn’t it
(And still if you do not fall in the above criteria, maybe it’s also because of
past life karmic connection where the roles are reversed, the reason that
causes anger in you in this life is because you were the person performing the
same karma that causes anger in you in this life.
In a heated
situation, when you at least acknowledge that Anger is a selfish emotion, your
stress and anger automatically vanishes away within no time.The antidote to anger is to seek compassionate understanding
and to see things from another person’s point of view and beyond time and space
too (karmic role reversal). When we do this, we are more likely to feel sympathetic
rather than being angry.
If you have a hot head, you can practice following
1. Being relaxed, calm and control is my type of personality.
2. I can easily control my anger.
3. I learn to manage my anger in any heated situation.
4. I believe I live a better life without anger.
5. I am a positive person, and positivity is always surrounded by me.
6. I can naturally think positive in
7. Managing anger helps to repair and strengthen my bond with friends and family.
8. Diffusing anger is easy for me.
9. I am at peace and harmony with everything and everyone.
10. I always speak up my mind before my frustrations take over me.
11. I am calm and a loving person.
12. Outside circumstances and situations do not take my inner peace.
13. I am a powerful, passionate and a peaceful person.
14. I am free to feel joy, happiness and peace.
15. I choose to transform my anger into positive action.
If you want to learn about how and when to practice affirmations, you should read my another post on self-help| powerful affirmations when and how to practice to achieve the results asap.