12 things you should never do, even in the name of love
As is unconditional; we all hear that a lot. But that doesn’t mean you have to change what makes you original, what makes you yourself.
The person who loves you will do it with everything you are and everything you are not. There are some important things that you should never do, even if you like it a lot. Some of them are listed below:
So you like to have an extra sweet at the end of each meal, and you don’t mind having curves. But so should the person you love. You shouldn’t have to change your figure just for him. If he wants to, it means he sees your physical beauty alone, not the beauty of your soul.
The latter lasts longer anyway. If you want to lose weight, do it yourself and don’t just find yourself attractive.
Ignore longtime friends
Those who ignore their friends for the sake of their partner are doing so badly. Her desire for you to cut off contact with your ex is still reasonable. But when he wants you to stop talking to some or all of your friends, even your childhood friends, he’s irrelevant. Letting your friends over for him will get you nowhere. Remember, these same friends are the only ones you need to turn to when he gives you a hard time.
Crush your dreams
Be with someone who encourages you to be ambitious, not someone who kills your dreams and keeps you from being independent. Like someone who wouldn’t make you choose between your career and your love life because when the right one comes, he won’t even give you the awkward position of making that kind of choice; instead, they will support you with all their might to be successful. They will keep you satisfied with both your love life and your professional life.
Do something that makes you uncomfortable.
Don’t let it trick you into doing something that ends up putting you in a very awkward position. You’ll know how much he loves you when he’s not pressuring you. He will make peace with what you invest in the relationship and be happy with what he gets.
Your comfort and peace of mind comes to him first. If he ignores this and only takes care of himself, you know very well where you are. So just because you like him a lot, don’t let him invade you.
Lower your standards
Loving someone doesn’t mean you have to lose your sense of right and wrong. If you know it’s not right for you, you shouldn’t lower your standards.
Never settle for less.
Just because he’s a drug addict and you love him doesn’t mean he’s the best for you. If you’ve stayed away from this kind of bad influence then you did it for a reason, so why start now? Loving isn’t about falling into the wrong type of personality, but having the right person’s imperfections and flaws will never be a problem.
Change your dress sense
The guy who really loves you will do it no matter how you dress. If he likes you to dress in bright colors, then buying a few isn’t such a bad thing. But filling your closet just because he wants to is not the way to go. He shouldn’t have any problem with your sense of dress, since he is quite comfortable for you.
Do his chores 24/7
So you do his laundry, the dishes and the preparation of his meals, while having your own tasks to accomplish. Being in a healthy relationship means that, yes, every once in a while you both will end up doing some of each other’s chores, not all of them. Rather, it would be helpful if you took turns doing them.
It’s still not an excuse to kill even your downtime to do its share of the housework. If he loves you, he will recognize that you are just as human as he is and that he deserves a break as well.
Give him all your winnings
If you’re out there working all day while he’s sitting at home, wasting that money on booze and renting movies, that’s just not good at all. When you both earn and spend an amount that exceeds your regular budget, it is understandable.
But if only you win while he’s the big spender, it won’t work out for the best. Using love as an excuse to get him off won’t help you build a healthy relationship, either.
Change your hair or wear more makeup.
You are a brunette and yet he loves blondes. Over time, you take the box and dye your hair. He might learn to love you better, but then the question is: do you want to? Why change for him when it doesn’t even make you feel good about yourself in the long run? If he likes you, your hair shouldn’t bother him, and you shouldn’t change it.
As long as the guy you love has no problem with the bags under your eyes or the wrinkles on your skin, or your big laugh lines, you’re as good as a queen to him. But you shouldn’t be wearing more makeup just because he has a perfectionist and ideal view of what beauty is. When he really loves you, he won’t love you for the color of your hair and your flawless skin, but rather for the way your heart looks and your love feels.
Be someone that you are not.
If you don’t like to sit with him and watch FIFA, tell him. If you are tired of going to the same restaurant every weekend, tell her. If the same playlist he listens to all the time bothers you, then tell him. If you don’t like something that’s genuinely familiar to her, you don’t have to, especially not in the name of love. It won’t be love, but just survival.
Survive with someone whose likes and dislikes don’t match yours and vice versa. Many people who are together these days without love and those who love each other but are not together, it is because they find that changing their personality is a requirement made in the name of love.
It is none of those things. You should never have to be anyone other than yourself, and the one who loves you will love you for your sense of truthfulness and originality. It is to love in the purest sense of the word, with all that you are and what you are not; all your haves and have-nots.
Make him the boss of everything
Sure, you might be head over heels in love with him, but that hasn’t taken away your right of self-expression or your freedom of expression, has it? And you shouldn’t even give it up just for the sake of love. It means not to make him the boss in everything.
You also have a voice, so use it. When he decides everything, there is little left for you to do but obey his every command and request. And we all know that a healthy relationship can never flourish like this.
Get married and have children.
Perhaps being the biggest decision of your life, you shouldn’t have to go through something like marriage and have kids just because he wants to, and you aren’t doing it yourself. It’s a big step forward with someone else by your side; if only he wants it so badly that you don’t, then that will only create difficulties in the future. Being a part of such a one-sided thing never helps anyone.
So just because you love her doesn’t mean you should throw your whole life away for love, marriage, and child rearing unless you want the same and feel ready for a such and such a thing if he is not on the same page with you. in this matter, it is better to clarify your plans and sort things out than to settle for such a big change in your life, so that it becomes a problem for you later. That doesn’t mean the two of you should get married and raise kids together.
It’s more about wanting to accomplish good things in life together than having to sacrifice to such a great extent.
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